If they’ve got what you want, they’ve got you !
It occurs to me that one of the keys to happiness is to manoeuvre yourself as far as you possibly can into a position where nobody has anything you want. The more self sufficient you are psychologically, materially and financially then the less you are in the control of others, the less others have power over you. They have nothing you want then they have nothing over you ? Getting yourself into this position may take time but if you start with it as a mental attitude and adopt it as one of your mantras you are surely half way there. Of course there will always be something that you want but remember there is a big difference between want and need.